March 30, 2005
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Jim, jc@jc-law.com, is the lawyer who did my will, and I always call him when I need the name of someone I can trust to do a good job. I call him because he knows good people. He makes like he’s not but I get the distinct feeling he’s one of the finest men I’ve met, in terms of good moral standing. He’s smart, too, and very conscientious. And he’s straight up. But you know what I like the best about him? His voice – it’s golden. Anyway, he gave me some good advice today.
He said, “Don’t take on a fight with an alcoholic who has more money than you, if you don’t have to.” And when I think about it that way, I am wishing I didn’t corner him last night.
Tonight the youngest came over for dinner after school and we worked on her big paper. I love helping kids write papers. She did her laundry and played the drums and it was like it should be.
Comments (12)
Yeh, my gut feeling is stay out of the legal boxing ring if you can- don’t know why I feel that, but I do. You’re just currently re-arranging the schedule when your daughter spends time with you, not changing the custody (I hope). I have you right in the centre of my heart with this. I hope you’re not stressed out, and that your ex backs off and let’s what your daughter wants to do take precedence. *Hugs* xo
Liked your comment about brenda’s post. Oh, your friend’s advice reminds me of something I was told, “Don’t fight with anyone unless you can get aways from them.” Be well
What’s the baby writing about?
Pru
I think you are more than ready for what is in your
reality…and this is just one more match up with your
ex…and your kids father…when we fear something
of course we are giving it power…just accept it and line
ur ducks up straight…I *smile*
anytime you can avoid lawyering – everybody wins, but sometimes, you need a lawyer and then it’s a matter of the side w/the best lawyer wins… so alway buy the best legal person you can afford… and it sounds like a perfect night!
How old is the youngest? How many more months are you talking, in terms of changing custody/payments, etc.? I know someone whose ex filed for a change in child support 3 months before said “child’s” 18th birthday (and after high school graduation). The child had changed living situations back and forth periodically, doing better with long stays and feeling “situated” than too much back and forth. My friend started to freak as she couldn’t afford to pay support and because she had never filed for more money when the child was with her all the time. But when she realized the timing, she calmed down. And his case was pretty much thrown out of court.
drums! ack! That would drive me batty. Kudos to you.
And the other kinda goes with the addage of pick anc chose your fights carefully…most things never need to get to that stage and the fighting never helps anyone involved. I wish you luck in it. Luckily my dad is a lawyer, so I try for the free advice often:)
Although I count both my lawyers among my friends, I would not enter a legal battle except under extreme duress. On the few occasions I have, it seemed to end up as a “nobody wins” outcome.
I have yet to know what my ex thinks about my son’s more or less disowning him…he’s not written or called in months. Summer vacation is approaching…and the papers say the kid is supposed to visit him (he even does me the favor of making the drive both ways, since it’s too hard on my back). Dustin’s 15…I don’t think I can make him go (and I wouldn’t anyway), so, I guess if Daddy really wants him, he’ll take me to court. Of course, he’d have to come here, since the papers were filed in New Mexico…and he lives in Texas. (My momma didn’t raise no dummy! hehehe) If he should decide to do that, I’d go into shock, since his lack of attention to Dustin, which has always been in the form of dollar signs, would suddenly change…but I’d have to share the lovely letter Dustin wrote to his dad…and I know Daddy would have a cow. Of course, Daddy doesn’t know that in August I can ask to have child support modified…to more clearly reflect his earnings and what he owes…it’s always nice to have an ace in your hand.
He has more money…but I’ve got more cards. *wink*
How much longer for you? I have a couple more years…
Peace and Love…GFW
“……..and it was like it should be.” I’m glad!
Hehe, and here i thought lawyers were evil!
Tony
I’m late catching up all around – this week has been nutty (aren’t they all?) but I wanted to thank you for your exceeding kind words and also to say wow – for what you’re going through. “I said I was praying. You would be, too, if you had these girls.” I love this line from a couple posts back. They are blessed to have you and your good vibrations in their lives. I hope the legal wrangling isn’t too onerous, I’ll through in a good thought out your way, too. So you were thinking you might have almost been a grandma? How was that sitting?