February 7, 2009
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The litigator was at his beach house and he invited me down to meet the new girlfriend. He just turned 62 and she is 28.
I always meet his girlfriends and I always like them. Just like he, they are smart, funny, savvy, and sexy. This girl is not. She grew up in a crime-ridden section of Sacramento, and when her family moved to Utah she dropped out of high school her freshman year to sell drugs on the street. She was working at Wendy’s when he met her at a wedding. It sounds like she hit on him.
As absurd as it seems, it works. I’ve never seen him look happier or healthier. I don’t think either one expects anything from the other in the way of a future. Each is happy to supply what the other wants and they seem content, curled up on the couch together in their matching, white socks.
He came from the same background and lots of his clients are of the same ilk. I think he sees himself in her, the boy that dropped out of high school to join the Merchant Marines. Maybe he’s comfortable enough in his success now that he can look back to his roots.
It wasn’t until the drive home that it started to bug me. Why has he let himself get so close to her? What could they possibly have to talk about? Here he never could trust a woman and he picks someone I wouldn’t trust with my purse. He was such a picky dater and she’s not even attractive. I don’t know why it bothers me so much that he’s being cavalier about sleeping with her. It’s not okay.
For some reason he thought Derek had been spending the night. I told him “Heavens, no.” He wanted to know why not and I said, “Because he’s nobody I could be a partner with.” The first night Derek said it made more sense to sleep on the couch than to drive home just to turn around the next morning and drive straight back, I said “I don’t want you spending the night here, ever.”
There were a couple times I was tempted but I knew it was wrong. And if my friend had any sense at all he wouldn’t have that stupid grin on his face.
Comments (3)
I dunno Pru, are you intentionally sounding jealous?
Sounds like you are just thinking about them too much. Let it go. Be happy that you are trying to be sensible.
I don’t understand why you think “it” would have been wrong, Prudy. Life is short and we are not getting any younger. Sometimes it’s necessary to take a chance to realize the prize; and the price of failure? Is it more than we can afford?
I know what you mean regarding the litigator though. Some men think it would be so delicious to shack up with a woman 25 years younger for a few weeks, or more, but I don’t get it. Woman close to my age are so much more complete and confident. They exude sensuality and tend to savor prolonged intimacy over brief physicality. My most memorable connections have been with woman 5 to 10 years younger or older than me.
Very nice writing Prudy. Complex and honest.
Thanks