January 27, 2009
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There has been no contact today. This is the first Tuesday since I’ve known him that we haven’t talked, either in person or on the phone. I’m thinking he drove his cat to his parents’, a three-hour drive.
They have agreed to take the cat. I erased the cat’s name out of paranoia. The girl who was keeping the cat because Derek’s roommate said, “No” –It’s his house — gave it back yesterday. She is moving.
His cousin is a computer genius and the first night he stayed for dinner he had his cousin hook him up. The cousin was able to log into my computer (from his home) and get Derek linked somehow so that he could use his laptop here. Today, I went into my Xanga settings and changed it so that if you comment it doesn’t email me. Just in case.
On Tuesdays I volunteer at the hospital and Derek is usually alone here with the dog from 2:30 to 6:00. I called my brother and told him of my concerns. We decided that Mary, his mate, was going to stop by to use my sewing machine. I posted a note on the door that read:
“Mary, I need to leave for the hospital. You can leave the key” — Then I crossed that out and wrote: “ Keep it.”
I called at 4:30 and had my brother drive by. He just lives around the corner. Derek wasn’t here. I stopped at the bar where I dance on Sunday nights and had a martini just now. And I thought of all the men I have known and loved and how strange they all are. What I am left with is how strange I am.
Comments (6)
Strange is relative.
I wouldn’t put too much thought into it…
although…
I have to admit
I do put too much thought into that very subject myself.
i don’t think it’s you. i am a bit worried about how much access he has to you… you may need to talk and end things on a friendly note so he won’t do something stupid like empty out your accounts.
He’s odd to say the least and Jerjonji has a valid point…access..undeniably too much of it…marilyn
Hi Prudy…
Before you can raise it, I am sorry for my appalling lack of contact. Life has been crazy for both of us.
Sounds alarming that someone can, and has, accessed your private computer without your expressed permission. I know you are a good judge of character and bestowed with both wisdom and sound intuition. Think it trough but listen to what your heart says as well.
Best regards,
Jay
@Slag_Runner -
There must be a way to break his connection to your computer. I use Zone Alarm and it notifies me if any outside source is trying to access mine. You can allow or deny whatever program, from within or without. He could have all your passwords (if your browser remembers them for you), too, so you might want to change them if you think he’d use them.