August 26, 2008
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This was today’s quote from the Daily Guru: “All of us are always self-absorbed. The question is, with what self do we identify?” Of course I might have read into it my line of thinking that I have a shift going on in my identity. I drove that car home with the sun roof open and the radio blaring — He’s a professional cellist and the radio was set to classical — and I felt different. Kind of like I did wearing dress-up clothes to the weddings. It had been a while since I’d worn pearls, and dress-up clothes suit me.
I know from being bald how unnerving it is to have a noticeable shift in our image. And I put a lot of stock into image. Not that that’s good. It’s probably bad. But I take great care in dressing for each day. I choose my shoes and jewelry to go with my clothes, whether I’m going to the river or the hospital.
I’ve thought about it and it’s not about appearance it’s about …I don’t know what it’s about. All I know is that things are changing.
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I don’t put a whole lot of time into my physical appearance, but I know what you mean when you talk about feeling different all of a sudden. I’ve actually lost quite a bit of weight this year… a couple pants sizes at least. People have told me I look different, but I don’t look in the mirror every day lol…
I do feel like a new person from time to time, though. That’s a good thing. Usually smacks me in the head about every 6 -8 months. How often does it happen to you?
After my divorce I felt completely different inside and out. It seemed I was so used to letting myself take second position in life that first place felt foreign. You buying a car that feels like it’s “too good” for you is what I read here. You are worthy…sometimes we forget that we are. Congraduations on the car and to hell with what others feel..marilyn
Caring about your appearance, dressing up — what’s wrong with that? I think it would only be bad if we take it too seriously. It can be a wonderful way to “play” and be creative and I think it sets up the day wonderfully.
There’s something very fulfilling about driving a really nice car. “Nice”, of course, is completely subjective, but if it pleases you then it’s right. My car is 16 years old, needs a paint job, and has bird poop all over it, but to me it’s heaven on wheels. I feel fantastic when I drive it and I love it to pieces. Do and have things that make YOU feel GOOD — and ask for more!
i grab whatever is on top of the bag of clean clothes
Lots of meat here… I generally don’t pay attention to clothes or anything unless I am going somewhere. And I never wear makeup. But I’m trying to get better. I remember even back in high school thinking I didn’t want to “dress up” and attract someone who was just attracted to that aspect. That I would dress up after FOR someone special but not to attract someone. But the car… I bought my very nice car back just before the dot-com crash when all my clients went out of business. I still have it. I’m glad I bought it because I DO feel good driving it (even though it’s 7 years old now). I never actually LIKED any car I had before this one. And I love it. And as a consultant perhaps I should buy new cars more often for image but I just can’t go there. I end up becoming friends with most of my clients anyway so what’s the point?! And with college looming, I need to conserve as much as possible.
I like people who take care to look their best. Something I feel that I have started to let go of my appearance.
Hello Ms. Prudence,
You made your site so simple yet elegant. I see that you have a wide variety of interests and observations here!
I’m sending an important message to people about God’s plans for us that is in the Bible: 7 “But always, first of all, I warn you through my servants the prophets. I, the Sovereign LORD, have now done this.” (Amos 3:7) (NLT)
I bought a Dell laptop at the end of May and by mid-August its hard drive failed, and over about 4 weeks three more hard drives failed, it was a nightmare. It got sent to a Dell Depot finally where they installed that fourth hard drive and a new motherboard, and I gave the laptop, which I had upgraded and configured for my daughter anyhow, to her (she loves it & it’ll work like a charm for her since it was always hers or that’s my opinion now). Then I went & bought a 24″ iMac with a tax credit (fret fret) which I’m on now and LOVING. This woman is an Apple woman; an Apple woman this woman is. PCs just don’t like me. Anyway, I swore I would make dance poem videos to justify the cost and I am actually beginning to work in that direction. This all by way of explaining why I’ve not been on-line much except to drop in occasionally & read my email and sometimes quickly post something from my old iMac, nearly 6 years old, with the sticky keyboard that you have to press sometimes half a dozen times to get a letter in a word to appear on screen and the mouse that I share with my daughter. However, I’m back now, don’t have a job yet (laid off from my last contract at a bank at the end of May), so around.
I love how you compose yourself aesthetically, Pru, in how you dress, what colours you put together, and what jewelry, and I imagine in person you are as delightful and gorgeous as your writing, that you carry your style with you in all aspects of your life.
Self-image is so very important. When we take care of ourselves it makes such a difference.
*hugs xo