May 27, 2008
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Something strange is going on. The universe is returning people from my past. Last week I had coffee with the woman I’ve written about who grew up across the street from me, the one who couldn’t sell my house and didn’t speak to me for …I don’t know we’ve been estranged since October 2004, aside from two or three attempts at coffee which didn’t go well. By then I was the one who didn’t want to communicate. But out of the blue she called last week and we had a wonderful meeting on Thursday.
Tonight I went to a BBQ with my last boyfriend. I broke up with him and he never spoke to me again. Until he emailed a couple weeks ago wanting to get together for a drink. During the last four years I have become close with his best friend’s wife, unbeknownced to W, until she was forced to tell him after he called me to make a date. We’ve met for drinks and then last week went to dinner and now tonight we were a foursome again and I can’t begin to describe how good it felt to be part of that group again. I think W enjoyed it too, even though there were a couple times I wondered if maybe he resented my being more up-to-date with her than he was.
On Monday a boy from my high school contacted me saying he’d never stopped loving me all these years and wanted to reconnect, now that I am single. He is still married so I said no. I certainly don’t need another married man.
Henry’s secretary, back in 1978, a woman who became one of his best friends and who wanted to stay in my life after I left but was such a downer that I discouraged it sent me a lovely card with a picture she’d cut out from a magazine. The note said I used to look just like this back when she first met me. I don’t know what to do about her.
There’s one more but I can’t think who right now. When people come back you feel like you’ve come full circle. I just wonder why now and why so many. Like what’s the message.
Comments (12)
Wow. I don’t know why, but it’s fascinating. I always wish I’d meet someone from my past, but I never do. My husband, who comes from India, has met people he knew many years ago, though not recently. Go with it. Enjoy it. If it means anything, it will come to you.
very odd but all for a reason right? I think the people in our lives come in and out as we or they need or can gain something from us or them but come on, the guy who is still married and still loves you?! He must be having some regrets and late mid life crisis?
Wow. I agree – fascinating, indeed. I’d be really freaked out if such people came out of the woodwork, since a lot of my past lies in parts a thousand miles away.
The cycles of life are interesting. Pay attention, but go with the flow.
lately i have been wondering about the comings and goings of people in my life as well.
The first two sound positive. The last two… not so. Keep yourself around the positive people, the ones who make you feel good.
Life is a spiral. Like in a dance, we whirl back to the starting point, again and again.
When are you going to set the hook on one of these guys and make his life complete???
Peace, Jay
When I bond with someone, it is for life. Even if decades pass, I am ready to pick up where we left off. I have learned, to my chagrin, that everyone is not like that. I think it’s wonderful for these people from your past to be part of your present…
It’s not just you – in the past 3 months, or so, I’ve gotten back in touch with at least 3 people I haven’t had any contact with for 10-15 years, or more. I’m not quite sure why it’s happening, but maybe it’s because I’m at a time in my life when I really needed these people back in my life, or they needed me in thiers. I guess I’m just glad to have them back. I didn’t realize how much I missed them until then.
Enjoy the memories, if not their company, and count yourself as lucky I do me.
C~
I wonder that sometimes too, but then I realize that sometimes these things just come in waves. Maybe when things are down, people just crave communion and community. And maybe you are a light of community right now.
As for the comments on my post — I think I was tired last night and clicking “tab” to get to the bottom of the post. I switched to the Mac in the last two months and am not completely facile with all the well-spaced keys and the large touchpad. It was completely unconscious in disabling the comments.
People miss you as a nice friend:)
The full circle thing is probably right on and it seems you are unforgettable
. I have no doubts about that much.
It’s weird. I keep having deja vu. I even thought the full circle thing and was kind of happy about that but I have this weird mild anxiety. You last line. It really resonates right now.
I have programmed myself to expect the worst in the past, maybe that’s not it. Maybe good things are simmering in the universe.
you must be ready to have all these ppl back in your life… odd tho!