December 29, 2007
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I’m alone at last. Here all this time I thought I’d prefer not to be. I’d even been considering renting out a room if things got any tougher in the stock market. Two weeks ago my middle daughter and her boyfriend moved in. Until March. They don’t want to be here any more than I want them to be here but we all get along well — Actually, the boyfriend and I get along the best — and once he goes back to Alaska she will get a place of her own. Their lease expires in February. They were sharing a house with a couple who have decided to get a divorce, and the stress level was getting intolerable.
Sooo, I’m alone for four days because they’ve gone to the beach house for New Year’s. It was a family tradition that is being carried on by the children. Or at least one of them. The oldest couldn’t get away and the youngest left from the beach to drive back to San Francisco.
Christmas was good, though, as we are all closer than ever. One night all three girls spent the night in the same bed. We’d been out to dinner and then came home to play cards. One of the kids told a friend of mine it was the best time she’d ever had with the family.
It has occurred to me that I shouldn’t be so wrapped up in my children, now that they all live else– Uh, now that two of them live elsewhere. But we are on the phone with each other almost every day. The middle one who’s living here thinks I need a boyfriend, and she was giving me tips about how I might go about getting one. She’s going to get me all dolled up, and the two of us are going to go looking for a man for me. “Good luck” is what I told her. I mean spotting one. The whole time she’s coaching me about what to say I’m thinking she’s nuts but realizing how much better my odds would be with her at the table. Isn’t that awful!
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Hey, a babe magnet, just what you’ve been looking for…NOT!! Let her try though since you never know how the right guy will enter your life or when for that fact. marilyn
Christmas was good, though, as we are all closer than ever.
My favorite line in your blog. Cheers
Oh, we’re just perpetual mothers. Keep it up….that’s what I say. I think it would be fun to go out with your daughter.
Aw! That’s adorable that she wants to do that and great if you’d have fun too. I’ve wondered if they see you as often kids do see their mothers, not as individuals but as a role. I guess not if this one is seeing you as a woman. That is awesome. My ideas of you are that you are vital and amazing and you at the table would be a help to anyone else. If I were there I would so want to go out with you for that reason among others so I cannot think that it is awful!
Wow. Roomies. Okay, well at least there is an ending point to it. Not that having people around is bad, but being alone isn’t too shabby either.
Glad Christmas went well there. Here, the sisters fairly well tore me down. But I think I am past it. It took a week but it’s out of my system now.
Happy new year to you too in case I don’t get the chance to say it later!
Both my children, daughter, 17, son, 20, are now living with me – son unexpectedly said he didn’t want to live at his Dad’s anymore and is currently sleeping on the couch while we figure out how to reconfigure the space in my 2-bedroom apartment (there’s a large room downstairs that could become a place to chill out, hang out). Like you, I feel it’s quite wonderful, and nothing could make me more happy than realizing how close we still are and how much love there is between us.
I dropped by to wish you a great New Year’s, but perhaps I’m too early {sigh}. I’m off later to dance to perhaps 40 or 50 people drumming on African drums with not a lot of dancers since most people don’t know about it – but every time I’ve gone, it’s been the very best New Year’s celebration. Usually many people leave by 12:30 or 1am, and then the drummers continue jamming, and I dance into the wee hours, sometimes alone in the middle of them. Last year I didn’t get home until something like 4 or 5am.
Hey, I worked today, got ma kids, napped a little, am 55, and yah, up for it!
Hope you have a great evening, I’ll try to drop by tomorrow with wishes for the upcoming year…
hugs, love Brenda
Its good that your daughter and her boy friend can be free of the awful tension the people in that household must have felt . I imagine the couple they were rooming with will need their privacy. It seems that this year finds you and your kids building a strong bond .You can remind them of course that no where is it written one must have a partner…. its a good thing only if its a good thing ,and there is a lot to be said for being single too. You will make your life meaningful regardless of your single/ not single status.
If we’re not trying to run their lives, and have some life of our own (however modest), it’s our right as mothers to be wrapped up in our children’s lives.
There’s nothing wrong with staying close to your offspring, even if that means you are both out looking for a man. I think there’s something cool about that.
Lynn
Historically, when there’s gonna be a definite changing of the guard, the stock market tanks until November…with the additional greed generated by the sub-prime mortgage fiasco, things are gonna be rocky for a while
You sound good.
Looks like gold is the thing to ride for the next year
hope you are doing alright, I was just thinking about you and how you are.