June 10, 2007
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Today is my wedding anniversary, or at least it was for 28 years. Toward the end we did the same thing most years. It’s our Rose Festival weekend and everything was always booked downtown, so we’d go out to stay on the Columbia. I would have gotten drunk last night and had lots of sex. Sunday morning we’d get up and go look for coffee. Breakfast would be at the truckstop and legendary, if you like that sort of thing. Dinner, the night before, was usually on the deck at Salty’s. We even watched the porn movies. The whole weekend was surreal the first time but in subsequent years I would look forward to it. I even thought about going back there by myself, going to all the same places. After dinner there was a nice club with good music and a dance floor. He didn’t dance but it was fun to watch. Now I could dance.
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I can’t even recall celebrating an anniversary with much of anything, must say something about the men I was married to!
RYC: I actually told Dave it isn’t so much Mike as how Dave acts around Mike. They are like two 12 year olds, trying to out joke, out fox, out drink, cuss, whatever the occasion there must be a prank. Dave’s reply was that he felt the most like himself around Mike as anyone in his life..WTF?? What a screwed up view was/is my thought.
I felt so bad for Kate over the whole mess. There were her parents, about 6 of their closest friends, Kate’s 2 brothers/wives/children and possibly 20 of Kate’s buddies/partner/hubby and kids. I can’t even believe Dave would find this a venue for this type of behaviour. My Missy stated this evening, “Wonder if Kate feels about Dave the way you do about Mike now?” Ouch…possibly so and deservingly so…marilyn
Sex is good…. That’s pretty much where my mind is tonight
Sex is good!^ My Niagra trip was about my anniversary. Though mine were never good ones like that. The going back ended up no being about them or him at all but wholly new things casme to mind and I forgot the old pains. It was very cool.
Now you can dance. That says so much to me!
ryc: After I said that about courting skin cancer I blabbed on about the stones and the beach and that’s about it. I do use sunblock but I know being out there is not wise. I am limiting the laying out. Time does not permit it much these days anyway.
Hey, i hope this anniversary remembrance passes without undue angst. I’d like to say that last year did but it didn’t. It sparked a month of depression for me. And I was only married 8.5 years.
Interesting…old anniversaries pass me by with no encumbrances. In fact, my eldest rented “Walk the Line” this weekend and we watched it together. About halfway through it struck me that her dad and I had seen Johnny Cash on our honeymoon. I’d forgotten. I kept thinking I’d seen him live and couldn’t figure out when that might have been…
Thanks for the heads up. My anniversary is in a couple of weeks. Whew! now I have time to buy something!
My anniversary would have been sometime in these present few weeks. I can’t be sure somehow, I graduated from highschool one day (6/4?) took off for Florida with husband to be even before graduation (6/2?), go married in Elkton, Maryland on the way (again 6/4?), and then it was his birthday which I’m pretty sure is 6/15. This June month. But it was all so very long ago.
I do remember the anniversay dates of my 2nd marriage. But that happened only 12 years ago, after a 20 year relationship. And those anniversary dates do tug hard at my heart. July 2. Married after being together on and off for so very long. I think too that since we never broke up, no divorce, just an unexpected death that it’s so different. No choices, just life as it happens. Hmmm, not a good thing to start thinking about this Monday morning at work. Guess I’ll just get busy instead.
I do not know what to say. I felt faint trace of sadness in your reflection perhaps the sadness is for the 28 years together with him. It is a very long time.
Tell us more about dancing. I had some good fun “dancing” last night. And you’re one of a very small coterie whom I can tell and who will totally appreciate it
Wow, 28 years? I have never even had one. But, perhaps one day: who knows? I cannot imagine having that kind of history with a man. I know how difficult it is to still feel heart-tugs when I think of mind and Robert’s house robes hanging next to each other and telling stories to the kids; all of us snuggled in the bed together. OK, enough! I cannot go there this morning…too much to get done. Love and hugs to both of us.
Liz
Dropping in to say hello…just because I can! I have earned a surplus of Xanga time and this morning I am using it to touch base with everyone.
So considered yourself touched and blessed by Ashes blowing in from Taos.
Take care,
Mz. Liz
I’m considering acupuncture, actually. If it turns out I don’t have celiac disease, I’m going to find a good chiropractor and an acupuncturist. Although, I expect the lower back pain to disappear once I get rid of this kidney stone.
ryc: The responses to this post have (as usual) made me realize that although my generalized statement may be true, generally, I have found some rare and valuable exceptions! I think we’ve shared honestly and I value our communication.
ryc: I am there with you. Or was. I am facing that path again and I know it. I want very much to turn away from it and face something else for a change. We’ll see how it goes. I am tired of the joke being on me too.