January 22, 2007
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You’re not gonna believe this but I finally met a stock buddy. I was driving to church when the jazz station announced a concert at the Elks club. I’d never been and was curious. The address was right down the street, “if you can believe that” the announcer joked, it being an unlikely venue. It was what I expected. The median age looked to be 70. There was a guy who had to be 100, WHO WAS DANCING. I was the youngest but there was one man about my age and he asked me to dance. Turns out he trades much the way I do. We talked for a long time last night after we got home, getting online and comparing notes. Oddly enough, I went to bed depressed. I wanted him to be more. I wanted him to be a possible candidate for love. His wife died a year ago. His kids are grown. He’s SO nice. He has hair and lots of enthusiasm and I like the way he thinks but I’m not attracted to him. He suggested I come over next Friday night because his buying and selling system is something I’d have to see on the computer to understand. I told him “since I don’t date anymore, Friday nights are open.” I can’t remember what exactly I said to drive the point home but he came back with, “We’ll see.” Again, I like the way he thinks but he just doesn’t do it for me. I only seem to like tormented types who drink too much or players who smooth-talk me. When I woke up this morning I realized that it would be dumb, after finally finding a stock buddy, to mess it up with romance.
I played recorder with the group this morning. By now Margie has accepted me and the others really like having me. The wife encourages me to play soprano and I don’t get why but my presence seems to give her more power in the group. Somehow I diffuse Margie’s lead. For whatever reason it feels like a more balanced group now.
I don’t know if I’ve mentioned this but I started cooking for cancer patients. It’s a real good fit for me, and I’ve been working for a young woman who only eats organic now so I’ve learned new ways of flavoring food. But she’s doing so well she doesn’t need me anymore. I was supposed to start today, cooking for a family who, oddly enough, live behind the first patient. He up and died yesterday so I don’t think that will be happening. She said she might need me to cook for her and her daughter, though, because now she will be going back to work and her family will be leaving. They had come from out of state to help out. Either way I’m going to continue doing this work. I love it. I love cooking and feeding people something they can digest. I can tell when I make them feel better, listening and consoling and just bringing a little cheer into their lives. Once you get some good food into people and they get back a little of their energy, that gives them hope. It’s all about hope. That was for you, Paul.
Comments (19)
Why in god’s green earth can’t you just find a guy that you are attracted to? You need to work with your angels on this one, you have to ask the Angels, whatever it is you want, then they can help, but not until you ask.
I love that you are pushing that friggin Margie around!! Stuck up………ok, I won’t say it, but you know what I mean.
As for the guy, the stock buddy, dang it all, go back to my first paragraph…marilyn
I’m glad you found a stock buddy…dancing partner too.
Sometimes, I think that we’re not always attacted right away.
funny how life takes us on the twisty road when all we want to do is get there…
how did you start cooking for these people? is at a job, or labor of love, or both?
oh, and i know i have told you this before…husband and i were not a match….or so i thought. he knew right from the beginning…i had other friend ideas…you just never know.
self-protection is as important as being open to possibility, but unfortunately, it is way too much easier, so sometimes we drift out of balance. I think the cooking thing is a brilliant way to be involved in creative ways, and I’m delighted you are enjoying the recorder.
Finally, a “stock buddy”
Sounds like a lovely thing you are doing for those families.
Maybe you should try to figure out and heal the issues tht keep you going back to men with issues. It’s never too late.
It sounds like you’re kicking ass and taking names. Yeah, a stock buddy may not be relationship fodder… but I wasn’t attracted to my then-future husband until I started dating somebody else. We were best friends first, and that helped… and it didn’t kill any of our amazing chemistry either. I didn’t know you were cooking for cancer patients. That’s really awesome. And the recorder group sounds good, too. You’re always into something fun
I think it’s wonderful that you do the cooking for patients. I have a family member in her 70′s who has ovarian cancer and has been on chemo for months now. She seems to really resist eating enough to gain any weight. It’s so hard for someone outside to understand how you wouldn’t force yourself to eat even if you had no appetite, just to give your body more strength. She has a husband who cooks too.
You’re beautiful, Pru. Stock buddies, cooking for cancer patients, re-balancing a recorder group, you’re so open, and so very honest, and always reaching out, exploring, giving, with such a multitude of talents… nothing but admiration. xo
Sound great. You found a stock buddy. You have fun cooking for cancer patients. You do marvelously with the music group. All are wonderful. I am glad that you are very happy.
Girl, give him a chance. You never know once you get to know someone better.
perhaps he’ll have friends who may be more your style romantically?
(you seriously need to make a list — like in detail — of the kind of man you want. I swear to you, that’s what I did, and I was probably even pickier back then than you are now… couldn’t hurt, could it?)
You are probably right on about the stock buddy. That is a rarer find it seems than romance. And it kicks ass that you found one!
You inspiring balance does not surprise me in the slightest. I get that just from reading your page woman!
And that cooking you’re doing is good for the soul. It does me good just to read about it. I got all goose bumpy. Damn, Pru, you are one amazing woman.
Your work sounds very satisfying….I like how tuned you are to what you are feeling for the fellow(and not )…its so much easier qwhen its clear.
I’m not so into New Age therapies and organic foods (although I mostly eat organic, vegetarian but that’s cos of taste alone) and so I am open-minded about whether they contribute in any way to curing a dread disease. However, I think the amount of love – agape – you put into the cooking and the listening, cannot fail to bring about healing of the spirit and everyone knows that when you feel better you do better and you tend to get better. With your attitude, the moment you walk in the door to cook, I could see everyone smiling and feeling so happy you have come, and that’s before you’ve even lit the oven.
First of all CONGRATULAIONS on finding a stock buddy! Secondly…have I told you how nice it is that you are back? I can see where you would add a “balancing” touch to any group, and the beat goes on…lol
What a great thing to do to be able to give to others with your giftings and loving what you do!
Yes Hope is what it is all about!
Blessings,
Ashes
ryc: ty, you made me smile
Food, music, earning a living, creativity==it’s all tied together for you somehow and I love it when the pieces begin to fall together. They’re not all there yet, but look back a year ago and see how far you’ve come. You’re doing stuff you LOVE right now, connecting with neat people, making music, cooking food, healing. Really terrific.