July 12, 2006
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Believe me, you don’t wanna read this pitiful crap. I even went to a beginning swing dance class, trying to rustle up a partner. But I’m too depressed to tell you about it. Okay, maybe I’m not. It was mostly a bunch of 20-year-olds with not enough men, I mean boys, to go around. But what I was thinking about this morning was how different two of the young men were.
One was a strapping, handsome (in a naive but sweet way) lad who probably played football all his life. He looked like he’d just graduated from the local community college. Amazing body, the kind I wouldn’t know what to do with, he was one big muscle but long and perfectly proportioned.
The other guy was there with his fiancé. They were taking lessons in preparation for their wedding. He looked like a dork who was going places; smart and nerdy with a look of determination. His little bride-to-be looked like a climber. If I hadn’t seen her face I would have thought she was hot. I know I sound like a bitch, I’m kind of in a mood.
I’m choosing these two, from both ends of the spectrum, because as dancers they were the exact opposite of what I’d expected. The hunk had no rhythm but he tried and tried. Darling boy who was used to working hard to get things. The nerd yanked me forward like he knew his way around a woman and wasn’t gonna let any dance floor get in the way.
It was such a boring class I didn’t intend to go back but it was good exercise and there was a woman my height and age. Since we were two men shy, maybe I should offer to be her partner. Then I could learn the lead and teach it to my man if I can ever round one up.
Comments (25)
ok… now you have to go watch “shall we dance” not that creepy english version with the fake guy, but the original japanese version. it will make you put your dance class in perspective.
I would love to take dance classes one day – seems like a fabulous way to get some exercise!
But wait – I think I missed the entry where the man you were seeing disappeared. I’ll have to go back and see what happened.
ryc… mostly at the time, i was incredibly nervous and apprehensive. only after did it feel like a gift! and thank you!
RYC: I think they both felt guilty and knew they had disappointed me (in terms of pretending to do something, not in terms of skipping practice). Youngest is much more worried about me and my thoughts than eldest, but I have always figured she’d be the one who would get in more trouble. Now I’m not sure.
I think dance classes like this must be the ultimate frustration for someone like you. Is there an advanced class? But it reminds me of when TNG and I went dancing that once. I didn’t get the people who were there dancing with people they were “just dancing with.” Which is funny… I mean it seems so intimate to me. But I remember my mother wondering how I could have sex with someone I wasn’t totally committed to. My young fippant response was that it was “like playing tennis, just a physical thing.” I don’t think that’s true, for me, anymore. Maybe it’s not true for you anymore for dancing. It’s more satisfying if there’s meaning behind it.
Agree with jerjonji…yes, go see the Japanese version of Shall We Dance. I don’t know why American movie producers feel they can recreate a better product. Well, ok, this is an opinion that is subject for a complete blog.
Go for dancing with the other gal. I’ve had to do that before and you can take turns leading. Very good to learn the lead. Well, I’ve been accused of leading but I just have so much rhythm that I find it hard not to!
I like to dance and I used to take dancing lessons. Someday I will take dance lessons again just to enjoy it. I love the way you describe people. I think the writer in you always working to capture images, feelings, and “living” characters.
Sounds reasonable to me. Dance with the lady! I love you when you’re in bitch-mode. Sweet li’l ol’ me’s always making scathing comments under my breath. My best friend’s newest boytoy is a funny guy, so I have somebody to banter with and it’s fun. Interesting, cuz best friend’s parents are taking ballroom dancing lessons. I went and watched a class and had some of the same thoughts. More hugs!
I don’t think I’ll comment cuz I might say something wrong..marilyn
hahaha…most women would freak out if you asked to partner with them, even for pratical reasons. but, you wouldn’t have anything to lose if you asked her.
Thought YOU’D figure out where i went after the Xanga putch
wow, that was a really sweet compliment. i welled with emotion. i guess i can’t adequately express how much i admire you and how much your praise means to me
That sick shit is Salvador Dali
yes, humor-I figured you’d get it …but i didn’t think to worry about saying something wrong, or I wouldn’t have dared to post such a comment!
I love me some dorks. I want one. They do know their way aaround a woman. Well, many of them do. Almost make me want to…nope. I promised myself I wouldn’t. Ah. Swing dancing. You have got to be the most graceful thing around. I swear I owuld hurt myself and whomever dared partner with me. I need practice. Practice dancing too.
I’d dance with the lady if I were in your shoes. I like the way you describe the scene and the other dancers.
I’ll continue to be real, that’s a given..marilyn
I am in the same mood you are..i was laughing about your comment…I thought the damn picture was all background..I had no idea there was anything in it till i read your comment…looked and woman it scared me too!you are so cool and smart…and you keep the truth close even when it irks you.I like that a lot about you. have a good day
This mood too shall pass. For me “these moods” are usually prompting me to look and listen more closely to life…because usually it has something to say that I need to hear. But I only can speak for myself…but I can hope that this will pass quickly for you.
are you going there to dance…or to find something else? is that why it feels like disappointment?
maybe you’re looking too hard and setting yourself up…just a thought
round up the men…get em cowgirl! I just liked that phrase too much not to comment…rustle me up crittery menfolk!!!..kinda vibe..you could take up some martial arts..lots of dudes there…you keep at it though..it is refreshing to me to see the effort and hope and what not…I believe you do like the chase like a refined English fox hunter…just what to do with the fox once you catch it..eh?….tons of imagery in my head as i read this…personally, watching two chicks dance together gets me waaay randy..
what is most delightful is the integrity of this post…the honesty is there without the need for editing..meaning for all that you might be, you are authentic to a flaw..and anyone with a real opinion, right or wrong, is never boring…smiles…
johnm
It will be exciting to hear when it happens…Wishing you the best..
I’d like to read where you’re at these days, even if you think it’s pitiful crap. I miss the connected feeling. Of course you may be glad not to have a whole lot of xanga friends involved in your daily life again, just thought I’d let you know that I miss you.
RYC—when you’re onstage, the audience is the other side of the spotlight
I would keep going to the classes…maybe “HE” will show up there after all. One night may not be THE night, but another one could be…..don’t give up cause he is looking for you too.
Have a good Weekend.