November 16, 2004
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I gather some of you know each other, and you have the advantage of being able to call, if there comes a time where you need to smooth things over. I guess you also have the added disadvantage of not being totally anonymous.
For those of us who are strangers and just getting to know and care about each other, it is especially frustrating to write something you regret and not be able to make it right, with a phone call or email. On several occasions I have really screwed up, and it was with people I cared the most about. There was nothing I could do but publicly apologize and, in one instance, not really say what I wanted to.
In spite of this open interaction with people I’ll never meet, I am drawn more and more to you. Each one of you I read has something that I look forward to getting each day. I feel so lucky to have found a wonderful mix of people. You are wise and kind and funny and honest and wacky. I think we all even each other out. The best thing though is that you are all great writers. You are my teachers. When the site was down for a while and I didn’t know what was going on with some of you, I waited up. But now I can go to bed.
Comments (9)
Even though we don’t know the people here, I feel we are getting closer. We can write more freely because we don’t relate in our other life. I think we don’t need to worry about the way we say the things. We are all mature enough(so I hope ) to understand that we are all individuals and unique as such.
I agree with you completely. I’m getting to know people here that I really do love. And all of our writing is getting better too, isn’t it? We all mess up a bit from time to time, and that’s happened to me here too, but it’s okay, we keep posting, our relationships with each other grow stronger, Xanga becomes like a wonderful island or home or space in cyberspace to connect through our writing with each other. When Xanga was down last night, I really felt it. I missed everyone! Glad we’re all here today! xo Brenda
Come on over, I’m making stone soup.
I only know one Xangan IRL. She’s the one who told me about Xanga. I’ve known her for 13 years (since she was 15 and I, 25). We live several states apart and haven’t seen each other in 11 years. Another Xangan has called me a couple of times. (She lives in Canada and I, in New Mexico, and neither of us has the funds to actually meet over coffee.) There are a few in my email addresses and fewer in my IM lists. When I cruise Xanga, I feel like I’ve been invited into someone’s kitchen, the heart of the home. I feel honored and privileged that people share and let me share back. I have been in Xanga for going on two years (Valentine’s Day is my Anniversary), and I have become close to many people. There are many I would love to have over for a slumber party, but since that seems unlikely (unless I win the lottery), I am content to visit them this way. *smile* I don’t think other blog sites have the community feel we’ve created in many blocks of Xanga. I’ve looked into a couple of others (when Xanga pissed me off by not being available), but this is home to me. I hope you find this to be as welcoming a place as I have.
Peace and Love…GFW
I am sorry to hear about your daughter and sorry to see you go away even for a short time. I hope things will be better and you will be back soon. We as parents have to be there when our children need us. That’s why god made mothers.
I will miss you.
Hugs !take care!
Whatever happened with one of your children? I hope everything is alright. I hope you are okay. Sometimes we do need to take breaks because there are situations or crises in our lives… so hugs, tons of support, and look forward to your return. xo
That’s part of the beauty of this online communication, you really have to make a serious attempt at conveying what you want via written word. It’s not a bad thing really.
I’m sure no offense had been taken at any of your musings.
ryc: I, too, did that thing…thought I was becoming addicted to Xanga. I think I am more addicted to the type of safe interactions I can do here. hehe
I hope things work out for you and your child. Whatever it is, I’m sure one or many of us can relate…Support…that’s what we come here for..
Peace and Love…GFW
i don’t know most of those i read, and those i know irl read more than they write, and sometimes, i screw up, but forgiveness is part of life and i beg forgiveness frequently…. all the time lately… it’s part of working on communicating and not always doing it in such a way that others understand. one thing xanga has taught me that ppl misread what i write frequently- it more than good practice and writing warm up, it’s real life lessons… hoping it makes me better some day!